What I learnt about vulnerability experimenting with it: Part 2

Lessons I learnt about vulnerability from consciously choosing to be as vulnerable as I could for some time. With a little activity in the end if you feel like experimenting. Late 2015. I had spent a few months now speaking to people about love. The word "vulnerability", not surprisingly, had shown up often in my…

Finding my feminine in my feminism.

This past year, I have been growing into my feminism, and being comfortable as it grows to become a much more prominent part of me. This past year, I am re-discovering what being feminine means to me. It isn't the yin to your yang, and it certainly isn't the dainty and delicate version of soft.…

How to have better (and meaningful) conversations.

One of the questions I get asked most commonly when I talk about my work is "how do you get people to tell you all these intimate stories of their lives?". Umm, I don't really know. I don't have a strategy. I just love talking to people and have been doing this for really long,…

I like big “ands”, and I cannot lie.

"You drive really well for a girl". Each time someone says that to me, which is unfortunately more often than I'd like, my brain responds with a massive ugh, which I have learnt to translate into a more "girl-like" mumble-sigh that could be taken for a thank-you on the outside. Because that, despite probably being intended…

The “Real world” assumption.

In one of the most powerful scenes in the edu-documentary "Most Likely to Succeed" (which, by the way, if you haven't seen already, you absolutely must), a teacher trying out something new in a classroom is having a meeting with some of his students to talk about the new pedagogy he has introduced in class.…