Maybe what we need is more “active” vulnerability

I have been thinking a lot about trust this week. I am thinking about the group of people who bared some of their rawest parts of their hearts in an exercise we did about values and our thresholds of tolerance for being challenged. About the peers who are processing some major life events as they…

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2018: The “Aha”s

2018 has been quite an year, with a lot of perspective shifts. Not immune to the spirit of reflection that comes from the year ending and my birthday being close together, I decided to do the exercise I end all my facilitation sessions with: listing all the "aha" moments from 2018, and some of the biggest…

Finding my feminine in my feminism.

This past year, I have been growing into my feminism, and being comfortable as it grows to become a much more prominent part of me. This past year, I am re-discovering what being feminine means to me. It isn't the yin to your yang, and it certainly isn't the dainty and delicate version of soft.…

What does it mean to say “me too”?

Me too. Despite all my skepticism for social media campaigns, this one felt important to participate in. To acknowledge the fact that I have struggled to say "me too" in the past, and never quite known how to. ... 9 years ago, a security guard groped me and pinned me against the wall before I…

I was craving kindness today.

I think there are themes to our lives. My mum told me that if you are in touch with your body well enough, your cravings tell you what you really need right now. Not the cravings for chocolate and maggi, she'd remind me, if you get your body used to the good healthy diet, it…

Our Feminism is better than Yours.

My friend arrived for dinner visibly agitated. In one of his leadership classes, one of his classmates had shared an example of sexism at work - as an intern in a fancy firm, she was apparently kept out of the conversation in her first week by all the men she was working for. "That's not…

The “Real world” assumption.

In one of the most powerful scenes in the edu-documentary "Most Likely to Succeed" (which, by the way, if you haven't seen already, you absolutely must), a teacher trying out something new in a classroom is having a meeting with some of his students to talk about the new pedagogy he has introduced in class.…

Us. Within our rhythms.

We take our circumstances and beliefs, and find our choices within. You, to the best of your ability, slightly enchanted by your needs of the moment. Me, to the best of mine, finding my way amidst the sea of my wishes. We, dancing our moves through this stage full of improvisers, occasionally swinging together. Organising…

Notes from a Bibliophile.

My bookshelves, they are like carriers of large parts of my history. Organised in patches of memories from my life, they are reflections of my meaning systems. When you come home, spend a few minutes looking at my shelf, taking in the titles of my books; some faded, some shiny new, and you will know…

Finding my balance.

Growing up, has been about discovering the privilege of having legs that can make choices, and hands that can enable balance by seeking out answers. But learning to stand is barely the hard part. And balance is merely elusive. It's like a game of twister. On non-linear multiple continuums of belief. Circumstances are declared, and…